A question for any submissive females willing to answer: how easy is it to make you come?
I'm hesitant to fully embrace the "submissive" label. I know that I've identified myself as submissive in various places here on our blog, and I do enjoy ceding control in the bedroom. But to me the label seems to deny variation. And while I love cowgirl as much as anyone, and I am certainly not passive during sex, that doesn't make me dominant. I don't think of myself as a switch, either. I guess I'm just not really into labels. But for the purposes of answering this question, I will run with it.
I am extremely orgasmic. I don't usually have trouble climaxing, either by myself or with a partner. The only exception to this general rule is when I am worried about something and unable to temporarily compartmentalize whatever is on my mind. In that case, while I might have no trouble becoming aroused I might have a very difficult time reaching orgasm. In fact, I might not be able to have an orgasm at all. However, this is a rare occurrence, and usually requires something extremely difficult to process. (Think debilitating family crisis or illness, terrorist attack, or Rick Santorum presidential inauguration.)
Although I sometimes cum without much or any effort, this isn't always the case. Different methods of stimulation yield the desired result with varying speeds and levels of ease. Virtually every time that Jack gives me oral sex, I know I'm going to cum fairly quickly and easily. He knows exactly how to touch me, as well as the precise rhythm that I need. If he is fingering me while licking my pussy, or even sucking on my neck, I may cum even quicker and easier. If he is fisting me, I cum almost immediately. My orgasm will be much more intense, and I will have absolutely no control over it.
If we are having penis-vagina sex my orgasm is not guaranteed, though that is mainly because I don't usually have vaginal orgasms, and not every position I enjoy results in the kinds of stimulation that lead me to orgasm. Doggy style probably works the best because Jack's cock frequently manages to stimulate my G-spot. In the missionary position, Jack's cock usually stimulates my clit, though the contact is not always deliberate enough to cause orgasm. If it does, it will probably take awhile.
If the sex itself isn't providing sufficient stimulation for me to cum, Jack will happily stimulate my clit manually while fucking me, but I don't always need to have an orgasm this way. I will graciously accept orgasms from oral sex or fingering that are completely separate from penis-vagina sex. If I've already had one or more orgasms from masturbation, oral sex, fingering, fisting, etc. before Jack's cock is inside me, it will make it substantially easier for me to have additional orgasms when it is.
With regard to masturbation, it takes me longer to cum when using just my fingers. Using a toy can take awhile too, though it really depends on my state of mind. I find that I need to clear my mind of non-sexual thoughts . Sometimes I need to clear my mind of all thought whatsoever. Frequently porn, written erotica, or the fantasies in my head speed up the process. Certain settings on our handheld showerhead make me cum much more easily, though my clit is usually very sensitive afterwards, and I rarely if ever have multiple orgasms this way.
One of the easiest ways for me to cum that doesn't involve Jack's fist or his tongue is for me to masturbate while sucking his cock. The added satisfaction I get from knowing that I am pleasing him in this way while simultaneously pleasing myself is immense. In fact, sometimes when I am masturbating I will take his cock in my mouth just as I am about to cum. The orgasm that results is nearly overwhelming. I also love to ride my Rabbit while sucking Jack's cock. I call this the Rabbit trick, and when I indulge myself this way I usually squirt. I know that part of the appeal of this scenario is that it plays on my fantasy of being fucked by one man (or woman, I guess) while sucking another's cock.
This is fucking hot.
-Jill
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6 comments:
Excellent answer full of good info. I will second that the Rabbit trick is out of this world!
Haha, I think I can honestly say I was not expecting such an extensive answer when I asked on formspring! Thank you though! And since asking it, I've kind of wanted to turn the question not just to subs, but to all female sex bloggers as well… so the submissive thing doesn't really matter anyway.
Thank you!
Great answer, I loved the way you described it. We're not big on labels either, at least not now. I used to get hung up on them, but as you get older all the lines blur.
S has the same thing as you with orgasms. When she uses her fingers on herself she has a harder time cumming, she says she can't shake the sensation she feels in the fingers. You and S are actually eerily similar in many of the ways you describe what helps you orgasm, and the compartmentalizing. It's nice seeing that S has a sexual "twin" out there.
De-fucking-licious! I don't get off on labels either, but I'm pretty switchy.
Brilliant response Jill. I hate labels too. If I HAVE to admit, my preference is more on the sub side and that's when I'll cum any number of times. I can't run with the word dominant, so I go with assertive. Difficult for me to cum that way, though I do get pleasure :-)
Oh, and I forgot to mention that's a damn hot MMF pic you posted! Thank you xxxx
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