On average, do you feel like you have enough sex? Too much sex? Or an average amount of sex
(Submitted by Cougar in Training)
We found this to be a difficult question, and accordingly we gave it much thought. We fully anticipated having different or even opposing answers but in the end we found that we were more or less in agreement. We feel that we have the right amount of sex for us.
Note that we didn't say that we have enough sex. Given the nature of our respective sex drives, "enough sex" may not be a goal we can ever hope to reach. And while we frequently joke that there's no such thing as too much sex, we did ask each other while answering this question whether that might be the case. As expected, it is not. We have no idea how to gauge what is an average amount of sex for the typical couple or individual, but we strongly suspect that we have more sex than most.
We feel that we have more sex than we should probably expect given our circumstances. We live in a small space with a toddler who dislikes sleep and is frequently underfoot. We were warned by many of our friends and relatives that the sex would decrease - if not cease altogether - once we became parents. Accordingly, we made a deliberate effort to maintain if not increase the amount of sex we were having before we had a child. We think we've been pretty successful.
Would we be happier with more sex? Undoubtedly. Would we describe the amount of sex we've been having as "enough"? Once again, probably not. We would love to have more sex, and for that matter better sex, sex for longer periods of time, or more sex with multiple partners. But given the limitations, especially the limitations of time and energy, both of which are increasingly scarce these days, we have no reason or right to complain.
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4 comments:
Wait.. who would even think there is such a thing as too much sex?? Not I. Never. Well maybe if my stuff is so sore I cannot walk, but even then there are other ways HA..
"We would love to have more sex,"
- I, too would love for you to have more sex...with me!
"and for that matter better sex,"
- Me having sex with Jack and Jill will be better sex
"for longer periods of time,"
- Oh I have TONS of energy. Just call me your slutty energizer bunny.
"or more sex with multiple partners."
- Me, me, me!
Have a freak-deaky Friday my sexy friends.
-H
P.S. I love the photo. Jack? You do know I am flexible, right?
LOL Twisted! Walking, fatigue and soreness definitely need to be taken into consideration.
I agree w Hedone, the picture is lovely. And I, too, am very flexible. Just for the record.
Not having children, I can understand in theory--plus what friends have told me-- that sex would decrease. Having taken care of my goddaughter and assorted nieces0 and nephews solo for days at a time, I DO know exactly how tiring they are from birth until about 8.
And THEN all the extracurriculars begin in earnest!
I think it's great that you had a sit down discussion and have made your sex life a priority since the little one came along.
And as for 'enough' sex, everything I've read of the two of you leads me to think that you separately have decent masturbation lives when one of you is too tired or two busy. Even if a toddler can make a pest of herself underfoot.
excellent, well thought out answer!
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