Formspring Friday: Holiday Madness

Here come the holidays. The insanity of parties, visits, visitors. The stress, lack of sleep.... does your sex life take a hit during the holiday season? 

(Submitted by Pagan Princess)


It's appropriate that we're answering this question today.  As we write this on Thursday night, we've just had a spur-of-the-moment dinner with relatives who are in town for Christmas.  Don't get me wrong, it was a very nice visit, and we're glad we were able to get together.  But they insisted on coming to our house with take-out rather than, say, meeting at a restaurant which would have enabled me to spend my Thursday in some fashion other than frantically cleaning our house from top to bottom.  The cleaning took time I wanted to use to write my Flash Fiction Friday story, and to work on this post as well.  Because most of our evening was spoken for, i.e. spent entertaining our guests, the blogging had to occur after they left and somewhat stymied my efforts to get to sleep at a reasonable hour, especially since sex with Jill before bed was mandatory.  Granted, I could have blown off the blog for one day, but that's just not like me, is it?

Hopefully you have ascertained from the previous paragraph where the rest of this post is going.  December is an extremely busy month for us, just as we imagine it is for most people.  This weekend alone, we have on the schedule a holiday function related to Jill's job, a baby shower (well, that one's just for Jill), and two birthday parties on two consecutive days.  Granted, of these four events only one is specifically related to the holidays, but things will only get busier as we near Christmas, with multiple friends and relatives all in need of one-on-one time.  Some weekends we have obligations every evening, along with multiple events planned for Saturday and Sunday.

Additionally, December sees Jill baking almost continually.  Every night this week she's been in the kitchen, making all manner of holiday goodies, many of which are given as gifts.  Some nights, after all is said and done, she doesn't go to bed until it's far too late to have sex.  On other nights, she's too exhausted.  It isn't unusual for her to just fall asleep on the couch.

That is not to say that we have no sex in December, or even that we have a significantly smaller amount than we do in, say, October.  It may be more difficult during the holiday season to have sex at night, but we do whatever we have to in order to ensure that we don't neglect our physical needs.  Like anything else that is enjoyable and worth doing, maintaining an active sexual relationship often requires considerable effort, especially since we have a child whose presence sometimes impedes us.  We're very fortunate that December sees Jill with a couple weeks off of work, during which time we've typically have as much sex as we possibly can.  If we're not traveling - and we won't be this year - we might be able to have sex three times some days:  Early morning, afternoon if our daughter naps, and late at night.  This won't happen every day, but it's likely to happen at least a couple times.

So in answer to this question, yes, our sex life does take a bit of a hit during the holiday season.  But we do our best to ensure that it's a minor hit at best.

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