What makes you feel sexy?
I think a lot of what makes me feel sexy is psychological. Just as one's confidence, one's success, and in some cases even one's health is determined by mental attitude, so too is one's inner feeling of sexiness. I know mine is, anyway. I find that being freshly-showered, clean-shaven, and dressed formally, or at least dressed in something nicer than jeans and a T-shirt, really boosts my confidence and makes me feel sexy. That is not to say that I don't completely rock the jeans and T-shirt look, because I do. But I associate wearing a suit, or even a pair of slacks and a dress shirt, with a night out on the town, and it brings to mind previous nights out on the town, and the sex that usually followed them. If Jill happens to be by my side, dressed just as nice and looking even more stunning than I, that makes me feel even sexier.
Flirting is something else that makes me feel sexy. I enjoy the back and forth, the pursuit, if you will, that occurs during flirtation, and I am fortunate to be married to a woman who feels the same way as I do. Generally speaking if I am flirting with someone, whether Jill, one of our "real-life" friends, or an online friend I've yet to actually meet in person, it's because I find them sexy, and presumably they feel the same way. This makes me feel sexy. But especially if it's Jill. I love the fact that, even though we've been married for half a decade, and much of our life is focused on relatively un-sexy domestic stuff like child-rearing and cleaning house, we still take the time to flirt with each other.
Of late, blogging makes me feel sexy as well. I enjoy having a venue to talk about sex, something that so-called polite society finds politically incorrect. But more than ever, I find myself increasingly gratified by the interaction I experience through blogging, and also through Twitter. I haven't always seen myself as particularly sexy; while dates, girlfriends, and of course Jill have told me that I was hot, I've long wondered how I am perceived by women who have no vested interest in my sexiness or lack thereof, i.e. those with whom I am not involved. Thanks to this blog and the people who read it, I need wonder no longer.
One of the things that really makes me feel sexy is dressing sexy. For me, dressing sexy can involve putting on a slinky black dress, fishnet stockings and fuck-me heels, but it can also be a sexy nightgown, corset, or another piece of lingerie. I love putting on make-up and curling my hair, too. Usually I do these things before a sexy photo shoot, and just feeling the curling iron in my hand makes me feel sexy. Sometimes, dressing sexy means wearing nothing at all.
A warm bubble bath, a steamy shower, or a long soak in a hot tub, preferably with Jack and some sexy friends, all make me feel very sexy. It's partially because I'm naked, of course. But it's also partially because I love being in the water. You know what really makes me feel sexy? Skinny-dipping. I don't know if I prefer it in a private swimming pool, or if I'd rather be in a lake or some other natural body of water. On the one hand, in a pool I don't have to worry about being seen. On the other hand, in a lake there's a chance that I will. And the thought of someone seeing me at my most vulnerable and possibly getting turned on really makes me feel sexy.
More than anything, though, interacting with Jack makes me feel sexy. I'm not talking about sex, although sex definitely does the trick. No, I'm talking about more innocent stuff. Eye contact from across a room, a wink, or playful physical interaction like a smack on my ass or his hand on my thigh provides a reminder that he still finds me as attractive and sexy as he did when we first met.
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