TMI Tuesday: February 28, 2012 - Sex & Romance

This week’s TMI Tuesday is about sex and romance. Who doesn’t enjoy a little romance or the art of seduction before engaging in sex? Often times the prelude is better than the actual ‘event’.

Jack's Answers

1. You are sitting alone in a restaurant because your lunch date is late. Do you:

a) Throw something and then make out with the waiter.

b) Check to make sure he or she didn’t get into an accident, then wait patiently for two hours and use the time to compose a love song or poem.

c) Send a nasty text followed up by a voice mail telling him/her that “romance is dead and so are you!”

d) Wait for 20 minutes, and then text-message a pal to join you for lunch.

It probably depends on how long I've been dating this person.  If it's someone I'm supposed to meet for the first time, I'll give her twenty minutes.  But I have a cell phone, and I'm guessing that, like every other human being on the planet, she has one too.  So if she's running late and didn't bother to call, she'd better be severely injured, or really hot.  After the twenty minutes are up, I'd probably get out of there.  If I know someone who's nearby and might want to have lunch with me, I suppose I'd call her.  But we'd likely go elsewhere; nothing would be worse than to have the tardy date walk into the restaurant and catch me eating with another woman.  Especially if she's got a valid reason for being late and not calling.

This is what happened the last time I was stood up in a restaurant. 

2. What’s more important, a romantic relationship or your career?
I'm going to say that a romantic relationship is more important.  At different times in our relationship and our marriage, both Jill and I relocated for the sake of the other's career, leaving behind our own.  I should also point out that, when we were dating, I moved a few hours away from Jill for a business opportunity.  We had been together a little over a year.  There was no explicit commitment.  By all rights, she probably should have dumped me.  In that instance, while I had every intention of staying with her, I suppose it can be said that I chose my career over our relationship.

3. You love to role play in the bedroom, which one of these is more likely to be your kink?
a. Doctor and the naughty nurse
b. You’re the gardener, I’m the hoe
c. Persnickety principal and the wayward pupil that needs a spanking
d. Me Tarzan, you Jane
e. Scattered-brain boss and the seductive secretary
Right now I'm inclined to go with (a).  I'm not sure why, but the medical setting seems most conducive to sex.  Last week I had a dental appointment, and for whatever reason, as soon as they reclined me to a horizontal position, I was seriously rock-hard.  I stayed that way for the entire hour-and-a-half appointment.

Maybe we're doing it wrong.

4. When you want sex, who tends to make the first move?

a. Me! I like to go for what I want.

b. It varies. Sometimes my partner/significant other/date or sometimes me.

c. Oh definitely the other person. Even if I want it, I’m not about to admit such a thing.

d. I drop subtle hints hoping he/she will pick up on it.

Definitely (b).  Jill and I seem to initiate sex equally at different times.

5. When it comes to lovemaking, select the answer that best describes you/your attitudes
a. vanilla – meets society’s middle of the road standards
b. adventurous
c. kinky
d. trisexual – I will try anything once, twice if I like it, three times to make sure.  –Mae West
Relatively speaking, I consider us to be (c), kinky.  Granted, I'm sure there are those who see us as comparatively vanilla - but there are certainly those who would view our sexual escapades as beyond adventurous.

6. You want to seduce that sexy someone, what is the sweet-nothing that you’ll whisper in his/her ear?
Without getting specific, it would be something equal parts flirty and intelligent.  While trying to answer this question, I found myself at a loss.  Jill pointed out that I spend a good part of the typical weekday whispering - sorry, Tweeting - such sweet nothings into the virtual ears of various online friends.  If you're one of these friends, and I've managed to dampen your panties with a carefully-chosen word or two, what did I say?

Bonus: What’s your idea of a romantic getaway?
Jill and I in a secluded cabin with a warm fire, a king-size bed, a few bottles of pinot noir, and nowhere to be.


Jill's Answers

1. You are sitting alone in a restaurant because your lunch date is late. Do you:
a) Throw something and then make out with the waiter.
b) Check to make sure he or she didn’t get into an accident, then wait patiently for two hours and use the time to compose a love song or poem.
c) Send a nasty text followed up by a voice mail telling him/her that “romance is dead and so are you!”
d) Wait for 20 minutes, and then text-message a pal to join you for lunch.
I would probably go with (d).  I'd wait twenty minutes, but then if I hadn't heard from my date I'd probably leave.  I guess if it was somewhere I really wanted to eat, I might order food or call a friend to join me, but really, I don't want to be there when the thoughtless asshole shows up forty-five minutes late.  Realistically I'm just going to get the hell out of there.

2. What’s more important, a romantic relationship or your career?
My career is very important for my own economic livelihood.  Fortunately I'm in a situation where I can have both a romantic relationship and a career.  I enjoy what I do very much, but if I had the opportunity to be in a relationship where I was guaranteed life-long financial support, I would happily give up my career and live a life of leisure.

3. You love to role play in the bedroom, which one of these is more likely to be your kink?
a. Doctor and the naughty nurse
b. You’re the gardener, I’m the hoe
c. Persnickety principal and the wayward pupil that needs a spanking
d. Me Tarzan, you Jane
e. Scattered-brain boss and the seductive secretary
Of these, the doctor and nurse scenario described in (a) sounds the most appealing.  This fantasy situation includes beds, desks, operating tables, and other horizontal surfaces on which one could lie down or be bent over.  Plus I assume there would be restraints, and lots of probing.  I like these things.  Oh!  Plus if you get hungry there's a cafeteria downstairs!

We have a very active fantasy life. Don't you dare judge us. 

4. When you want sex, who tends to make the first move?
a. Me! I like to go for what I want
b. It varies. Sometimes my partner/significant other/date or sometimes me.
c. Oh definitely the other person. Even if I want it, I’m not about to admit such a thing.
d. I drop subtle hints hoping he/she will pick up on it.
It's usually (b).  While Jack and I are often on the same page sexually, we aren't mind readers.  Any one of
us is as likely to make the first move as the other.  However, sometimes one of us will drop a subtle hint, as
described in (d).


5. When it comes to lovemaking, select the answer that best describes you/your attitudes
a. vanilla – meets society’s middle of the road standards
b. adventurous
c. kinky
d. trisexual – I will try anything once, twice if I like it, three times to make sure.  –Mae West
I think we are mostly (b), adventurous.  I hesitate to describe us as (c), kinky, because when I think "kinky" I tend to think of BDSM and other activities in which we don't regularly participate.  I guess it's relative, though.  One person's vanilla is another person's kink, and vice versa.

6. You want to seduce that sexy someone, what is the sweet-nothing that you’ll whisper in his/her ear?
"I want to get naked with you."

Bonus: What’s your idea of a romantic getaway?
My ideal romantic getaway would be to hop on a plane and fly to a beautiful beach on the Mediterranean Sea.  We'd start with a walk on the beach as soon as we arrive, and then a romantic dinner, followed by a massage.  The rest of our getaway would feature lots of sex, followed by more walks on the beach.  And there's got to be chocolate-covered strawberries too.

Absent that, a little Legend of Zelda cosplay would be perfect.

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