We came across this letter to Dear Abby in our local paper a couple weeks ago. It's relevant to the subject matter of our blog, and worth the couple minutes it will take you to read. In fact, when I read the letter, I was reminded of Mia Wallace's concerns about morning breath when having spontaneous sex in the middle of the night.
COUPLE CAN'T SEE SOLUTION TO VEXING VISION PROBLEM
DEAR ABBY: I'm a single 59-year-old man who is dating an attractive 40-year-old woman. I wear glasses, and she wears contact lenses, which she takes out before we go to bed at night. Of course, I remove my glasses.
The problem is, when we become intimate, we can barely see each other -- even with the lights on. We want to know what each other looks like when we're making love. Any suggestions? -- EYES WIDE OPEN IN ROGERS, ARK.
DEAR EYES WIDE OPEN: I am not a vision expert, and this is something you should discuss with your eye-care professional. However, because you are both blind as bats without corrective lenses, perhaps it's time you considered the Braille method.
When I first read this letter, as well as Dear Abby's reply, I was surprised, and a little confused. Jack and I are in our thirties, and I will be the first to admit that sometimes when we are having particularly enthusiastic sex, the kind that leaves us covered in sweat, with our heartbeats much faster than normal, it can be tempting to just pass out as soon as we’re finished. Perhaps when we reach our late fifties, the act of love will be so exerting for us that we can't perform simple functions like taking off our glasses or taking out our contact lenses between orgasm and sleep. But until I know for sure whether this is true, I can't help but wonder why these two insist on removing their corrective lenses before they go at it.
Also, we've got a request to ask of our readers. We are trying to increase readership of this blog, and due to the subject matter we are completely clueless about how to do that. Obviously we aren't going to send out a mass e-mail informing all of our friends, co-workers and family that we've got a blog in which we discuss every aspect of our sex life. There aren't too many people we know personally who would be interested in reading this blog, and who we would be comfortable sharing it with. Also, we aren’t very keen on the idea of advertising our blog on some random message board. We’d like to have at least some control over who reads it.
The request is simple: If you have any suggestions of how we might go about getting more readers to our blog, we’d love to hear your thoughts. (Especially if you happened to have a sex blog at some point in the past, hint hint.) Also, if you know anyone who might like to read about the exploits of a very open-minded and sexually adventurous thirtysomething couple, preferably someone mature who doesn’t giggle every time he or she reads the word “cock” or “pussy”, feel free to tell them about the blog.
-Jill
8 comments:
Yeah, I read that one and it cracked me up. People seemed a little prudish or something that they always remove their vision utensils before sex. Where is the spontanaity?!?!
Ok, as for bulding your blog readership, it is pretty simple. For the most part, unless it is your friends reading, people usually DO NOT comment on your blog unless you comment on theirs. Blogs are a give and take thing and if you comment repeatedly on one blog, add them to your blogroll and tell them about it, usually, people are happy to reciprocate. So, find some fellow sex bloggers and get yourself acquainted. Make friends. And comment, comment. Bloggers do not like to think it is a one sided comment relationship. If you comment and they never reciprocate, drop and move on to others.
Also, get yourself on a sex blog directory or two. Just google for that. You could get lucky and find some readers that way as well. That could also help you find other bloggers to read and get acquainted with. Hope that helps.
Vincent Vega
It cracked us up too! We both wear contacts and neither of us has ever removed them before sex. Then again, we never turn the lights off either or actually get under the covers.
Vincent, you don't know how much we appreciate your suggestions. Jack and I can't thank you enough, not only for your thoughtful and expertly written advice, but also for participating in our blog (Mia too!). We are so sorry that we never did the same for you guys, and now it's too late. We feel like users and we hope you and Mia don't hate us for it.
Anyway, we are going to start looking for other blogs to read, and try to get ourselves included on a directory as you said. We'd like a few more commenters than we currently have, though not so many that we can't keep track of who's who. :)
-Jill
One word, lasik.
Glad to see you guys are posting again, I was getting worried. I don't have any advise to give about how to advertise your blog but I told a friend of mine about it. I hope it's ok, he's cool.
-D650
I'm Andy, Don's co-worker. Thanks for letting me read your blog.
-Andy
Vincent's suggestions on gaining readership were all very good ones. That's how he built readers for his blog (and yes, we ARE mad at you for not commenting, but you're lucky you make freaking delicious toffee! Come get your cookie sheet and fill it back up. Just joking. Kinda...) We never had a very good readership when we had our sex blog and I think that contributed to us closing it down. Nothing sucks more than pouring (and bearing) your heart and soul into a post and having nobody (or only 4 people) read it.
As for the Dear Abby letter... Vincent and I are both blind as bats. He wears contacts and I wear glasses. When he takes out his contacts before going to bed, he, imagine this, puts on his glasses! Why can't the lady do that, that way she can see when they do it, and when they're done, put the glasses on the nightstand and go to sleep? DUH!
Mia Wallace
Hi Andy, and welcome to our blog! We both hope you enjoy what you read here.
Mia, thanks for the compliment! (And for not staying mad.) Everyone I know loves eating my...toffee ;) That reminds me, Jack brought back a couple goodies for you guys from his trip. We'll have to make sure to bring a full cookie sheet when we drop them off.
Jack does the same thing as Vincent, he takes out his contacts and wears his glasses before bed. I usually just leave my contacts in. I know, I know, it's not healthy and I shouldn't do that. But jeez, if we're intelligent enough to make the contacts-to-glasses switch before bed, surely a man in his 50s should have figured it out. Jack says that Abby should have thrown his letter out rather than bothering to answer it.
To be honest, we want to get a few more readers, hopefully ones that comment and "participate" in discussions or whatever, but I kind of like the idea of the blog as a record of our stories, fantasies and musings on sex and sexuality. In other words, even if no one actually read it or comments, we might take some solace in the fact that it's there, and that we can read it anytime we want. Or maybe years from now someone might stumble on it and find it hot, or at least worth reading. But hopefully hot.
-Jill
That's kind of how I feel about my MySpace blog - I use it to record the important happenings in my life; our adventures in infertility and my step-mom's cancer. If nothing else, it's important to you as the liver of those things.
Mia Wallace
I can think of a couple people we know who'd enjoy your blog. Oh, and did I hear right, Jill? You're making toffee again? We both love eating your...toffee ;)
-M&L
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