Formspring Friday: The Impossible Choice

There is a sense of friendship in both the Twitter and Sex Blogger worlds. Which do you prefer? If you had to stop posting/visiting one or the other, which would you give up and why?

Jack's Answer

While the sense of friendship and/or community on Twitter is very similar to that in the sex blogosphere, to me both feel distinctive.  This is surprising because there are many individuals who exist in both worlds, further blurring the line between the two.  That said, I enjoy the relative disparateness of both communities tremendously.

I can't honestly say that I prefer one network over the other.  Twitter has its own unique qualities, as does the sex blogosphere, and I appreciate different things about both.  For this reason I would find it very difficult to keep one network while letting the other go.

Were I forced to pick one over the other, I think I would choose the blog over Twitter.  It would not be an easy decision for me to make, and I would miss Twitter primarily for the near-instant gratification and general ease of interaction.  I would also miss the individuals we've met on Twitter who do not blog.

As a writer, however, I find blogging more of a natural fit for me.  Blogging is less structured and can be more in-depth than Twitter.  A blog post can consist of virtually anything, from text and pictures to audio and video.  And while a Tweet can include multimedia as links, the 140-character constraint is exactly that, a constraint.  I would hate for my primary means of communication to be limited in this fashion.

Additionally, blogging is more permanent than Twitter.  I don't know how far back Twitter archives the approximately three hundred million messages that are tweeted each day, but I do know that if it is possible to scroll back to the beginning of one's timeline it would probably take weeks.  But if I want to read something I wrote on the blog in October of 2009, it would take me at most three clicks.

Jill's Answer

I love our blog, not only for the opportunity that it gives us to talk about sex in a welcoming and repercussion-free environment, but also for the fact that it is an in-depth record of our sexual lives.  I am very grateful to have the opportunity to talk about so many of my experiences and fantasies, and to write erotic fiction as well.

While the blog is more personal, for my purposes Twitter is just more practical.  I don't see myself as a writer, really.  Despite the fact that I have written a lot of the posts on the blog, I currently don't write anywhere near as much as Jack does.  And although I enjoy the accolades that I get in response to the pictures we've posted of me, the fact is that I could post the same pictures on Twitter using Moby (although I would probably get far less feedback).

Between work, parenthood, and miscellaneous family and social obligations, I'm a lot busier than I was a few years ago.  This is why Jack writes most of what is posted to the blog.  Because of my increasingly busy schedule, Twitter is the preferable option.  Twitter is much more interactive than the blog, enabling me to be social with relatively little effort or investment.

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